“I’m not what I think I am. I’m not what you think I am. I am what I think you think I am” – Cooley
Just let that one settle for a second…..
Here it is again:
“I’m not what I think I am. I’m not what you think I am. I am what I think you think I am”
What does it mean?
It means that we’re often living in perception, of a perception of ourselves.
Our identities are made up by what we think, society thinks we should be.
What our bosses, school teachers, parents or any other authority figures in our lives think we should achieve.
So when we have this external pressure of what we think that other people think about us, it’s impossible to get to work on what WE TRUELY WANT FOR OURSELVES because we’re so consumed by what we think other people are thinking about us.
Perhaps you’re feeling that you longer fit within the mould of your career choice. Or that you want to explore more than just the 5 job choices you were given in school, college or university a few years ago.
It’s extremely difficult to want to be something other than the options you have been given in your younger life because you might not know any different.
There is the old saying that, if you want to become something, you must surround yourself with people who are already doing it.
“Show me your 5 closet friends and I’ll show you your future”
If you want to become a billionaire, you’d better start hanging out with billionaires. But until you meet a billionaire, you have no idea what it’s like to become one. How many billionaires did you meet in school??
The same applies to just about anything you can imagine that is not commonly offered in the school or workplace.
If you want to become a monk, start spending time with monks.
If you want to become a blogger, join a community of bloggers.
If you want to become an ambassador for a plastic-free movement….. you get the picture.
In reality, we only ever meet people who are already just like us, so we’re unable to explore other pathways that are more true to our bigger vision.
And this can leave us feeling lost.
The way we combat this is by opening ourselves up to new experiences and people.
The process of getting ourselves out of the rut that we’re currently in requires being exposed to what you do want. After all – You can’t be what you cannot see.
If I had never met a successful blogger, I would have never started this blog because I would have never know what it felt like or what it takes to become one.
I wouldn’t know what kind of lifestyle a full-time blogger lives, or the steps they took to make it as a blogger.
So if you’re feeling lost – figure out what you would like to become and expose yourself to it whole heartily.